Friendship is Such a Delicate Term

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The word ‘friend’ is such a delicate term. This word may be defined and applied in various ways, depending on the user. Once you are bestowed with a friendship badge, you should hold it in high esteem and wear it with honor.

For me, a true friend is found in someone who is always there for you, with NO expectations. They connect with you on personal level and understand you, even at your weakest moment.

Friends do not judge you, they support you and lift you up. You know you’re in the company of friend, when you feel at ease being you, you let your guard down and expose your true being.

Friendship does not have an established criteria, it’s based on what you find important in defining friends in your life. I have found some friends to be too draining and needy, so I released them from my friendship pool. Who needs a friend that is envious, uncaring, and all about themself, and even worse brings constant negativity into your life…not me.

Every so often, a ‘friends cleanse’ is required to determine who stays and who goes.  At this point in my life, there’s no need for me to have the most friends to be considered popular, I choose quality over quantity.

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I Found My Soulmate

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Have you ever wondered if there was any truth to finding your soulmate? I always believed we each have a soulmate, however, it may take time to find him or her.

My soulmate reality came to fruition, while working several years ago. I saw a man in my work location and immediately felt something in my heart that made me feel he was the one for me. I never had such a strong feeling of connecting with a person, I did not know, and a need to meet him…maybe it was love at first sight.

I’m was so grateful and nervous when I finally had the opportunity to meet him. I found out he had a “little” crush on me too. He apparently had seen me out and about, but never approached me.

I’m happy to say, my soulmate is still here by my side 23 years later. We have such a great connection, and the ability to laugh and support each other during the best and most difficult times.

I know he is my soulmate. He is always in my heart and I still get butterflies when we’re away from each other for a few days.❤️

10 Tips for a Successful Relationship

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I am always intrigued by couples in long-term committed relationships. I wonder what has been the key to their success. The one thing that touches my heart is, elderly couples holding hands or cuddling. It shows their commitment to loving each other.

Over the years, I came up with the following list of things that have been the key for my husband and me.

1. Truly listen to what is being said, before formulating your response.

2. Like your partner.  You must like your partner to love them.

3. Hold hands. The power of touch is amazing.

4. Laugh. My husband and I love to laugh. We spend time creating our own comedy hour.

5. Be a cheerleader or the biggest supporter of your partner.

7. Allow your partner to have their time. It’s important to have time for yourself too.

8. Treats! Pick up one of his/her favorite treats as a surprise. It will bring an instant smile.

9. Compliment him/her. Remember to say thank you.

10. Make time for your partner.

Disclaimer: This is based on my personal opinion and what has worked in my relationship.❤️

Looking for Love, Well Open Your Eyes

One thing I find interesting is, how a person’s priorities change when they are looking for love or a committed relationship. It starts out as a somewhat simple endeavor, but it can turn into a task for some due to unrealistic expectations.

Most of us start a relationship by searching for someone to spend time with who shares some of our own values and goals. We view those values and goals as the foundation to build a future together.

Then you have those committed to the dreaded CHECKLIST. A checklist is often defined as, a list of requirements. Love cannot be defined by a rigid check list or requirements, unless you are looking for a non-human person. Do you order the person from a factory based on your well thought out checklist?

I have even heard people say, I’m praying for love, I know God will send someone my way. However, the moment someone approaches, the wall goes up, as they instantaneously scan the check list embedded in their mind (and saved on their phone). Maybe the person you just wrote off, God sent your way based on your prayers.

Sometimes, you need to merely open your eyes and look at what is around you. A potential partnership may be right there is plain view, but your vision is blocked by that inevitable check list. ❤️